Category - Sex and Relationships

Relationship Stress What To Do About It

You may not be able to put it into words clearly but you just “feel” that your relationship is in trouble. You find yourself questioning whether or not it’s even worth saving and constantly wondering what’s missing from your relationship. Is it commitment, compatibility, trust, love? We wreck our brains trying to figure out how can we identify what’s really going on.

If you could change one thing about your relationship what would it be? Wouldn’t you want things to be the way they were in the beginning? Wouldn’t you want to feel the closeness that you once had? Wouldn’t you want to feel loved and cared about again? All these questions are not foreign to someone who has been or still is in love and in a relationship

I used to lose sleep at night worrying whether my relationship was going to last even another day. We used to be best friends and I just didn’t know what happened. How did it get so bad? I knew how close we were in the beginning. Now, we were hardly speaking. And when we did it was never pleasant. It makes me angry that people get more training learning how to flip hamburgers at McDonald’s than in developing a lasting relationship. Chances are, like me, you’ve turned to friends and family looking for helpful advice. You may have even tried chat rooms looking for someone to help. I’ve found advice from these sources just doesn’t work. Worse, as I experienced, they encourage you to “dump the b*tch out”. The tons of relationship books out there, I found most left me with more questions than answers.

Know that your relationship will not fix itself.
Relationship stress impacts everything about your life whether you realize it or not. When your mind is bothered by what’s happening with you and your partner, you’re carrying the stress of that fight to your work, how you deal with people, how you project yourself to the world. It will create a vicious cycle of negativity that will not help make things better. Realize when this is happening.

For this article, we’ll tackle how you can minimize stress with regards to your relationship so you can slowly work on the other issues.

  • Characterize what is the real problem and what your relationship is all about. Before you tackle solutions to the problem your relationship is facing, first determine if something is really a problem and the actual relationship itself and the challenges you face. The love you feel for one another should be protected from the stresses you encounter. To confuse the two would severely affect the relationship dynamic. For this to be successful we need to work at controlling our response so it doesn’t poison our feeling about our mate.
  • Constant reaffirmation of your partnership leads to is important.
    Little misunderstandings often happen so it is important that you remind both of yourselves that you are allies in the struggle and not enemies that should clash. Remember that you are each other’s support no matter what happens. If mistakes are made, being quick to apologize demonstrates a strong commitment to the relationship. Also, being forgiving about the other’s shortcomings has a similar effect. A constant reminder of how much you value your partner and the relationship will help clear away the doubts that sometimes tries to set in.
  • Do not be afraid to seek help if you need it as things can often be confusing and do not be too proud or stubborn which will help you lose objectivity. Most often, an impartial third party like a relationship coach who can hear both your sides will be able to see things clearly and will be able to provide valuable insight will greatly help you see things in different angles you have not considered. If you truly value your closest relationship, then the willingness to do whatever it takes to strengthen the bond of love and unity should be done. It may not always be easy but the rewards of having your loved one close and your relationship intact should be worth it.
  • Find opportunities to push and encourage one another to be better individuals. How do you feel when your partner expresses their confidence and trust in your judgment and actions? If you say you are more encouraged, it feels good, doesn’t it? We feel more emboldened and confident to take on more challenging tasks and face challenging times when we know our partner’s going to be by our side as their presence often casts away self-doubt. And even if the cloud of doubt lingers, knowing that we have another person to count on gives us the boost of courage we need to make it through. Mutual encouragement is a very powerful anti-stress tool a relationship can wield. Do not wait for stressful situations to present themselves before you utter a word or two of encouragement.
  • Treat each other with respect and do not let familiarity breed contempt. When we are under stress, we often tend to shirk away and be less resourceful. The last thing we want to ever do is to treat the other person as our shock absorber in life. In reality, it is not familiarity that lets us breed contempt for another but the lack of consideration and the show of disrespect. Promote unity and maintain a high level of respect for one another by making sure you treat the other with deference. Let them know where they stand and where you stand. Open and honest communication will help you get this through.

These are just some tips to help you make what you have work better. Relationships need hard work to maintain because after the burst of attraction settles and you get to know each other better it also unearths layers of one’s personality that we need to deal with. We not only take the good but also the bad. The challenges will always be there but to know how to properly handle them will reward us with years of lasting friendship and companionship with someone we can count on through our deepest, toughest times and in the peak of our successes.  And putting in all these hard works will be worth it.

5 Health Reasons To Masturbate

Whether one admits it or not, everyone masturbates. Fetuses have been masturbating even in the womb. Now the only questions we need to tackle are why do it regularly and should we be doing it more? The short answer to all these questions is YES. A recent study released by Indiana University’s National Survey Of Sexual Health and Behavior states that American adults masturbate between one and four times per week and more men masturbate than women.

Many sex and wellness coaches think that women should start masturbating more to also gain its full benefits. But unfortunately, many women still consider it a taboo to talk about this subject as many think it’s inappropriate to bring up. Masturbation’s bad reputation is due to religion’s teachings that to indulge in it is a sin. Almost all religions view self-pleasure as a deviant thing to do. Many conservatives also see masturbation as inappropriate. By World War 1, onanism was believed to be “self-abuse” and medical textbooks stated that if young boys engaged in it are doing something more sinister than lying and stealing. Women were not explicitly talked about. Perhaps it was assumed that women just don’t do it. This demonization of masturbation has thus led our society to view it as something shameful. And those who secretly engage in it are many timed riddled by guilt and fear even though it is a natural act. But you or anyone else should not feel guilty when doing this act as it is quite natural. Animals, whether in the wild or in captivity, have been documented to doing it.

Here at Fitness Bright, we shall try to help you overcome these hesitations so you can finally tap into the health benefits associated with masturbation.

1.) Regular masturbation gives you a healthy dose of endorphins, oxytocin, and dopamine. According to this study done in 2009 by researchers at the University of Michigan when you orgasm your body release endorphins, oxytocin, and dopamine. These are the hormones that make us feel good about ourselves and allows us to be bonded with others. When these hormones are boosted they help lower cortisol, that nasty stress hormone. If you fail to keep your cortisol levels in check it could lead to a lot of stress-related issues like inflammation, insomnia, stress-eating, and even weight loss resistance.
This means that even if you exert so much effort in your workouts, you’d still not be getting its full benefit. If you want to maximize your 3 Day Diet regimen then you better include a few minutes of self-pleasure.


2.) Curb your craving for junk food by masturbating. Due to masturbation boosting our oxytocin levels we in turn feel happier about ourselves. By being happier our bodies do not crave junk food or sweets. We are effectively lowering our sugar level, avoiding salty food, and taming our cravings at bay. Stimulating your clitoris is enough to increase oxytocin level. Even if you don’t reach climax, you are able to benefit greatly when this neurotransmitter is released.

3.) Men also benefit from frequent masturbation as this act greatly improves sperm quality. Masturbating constantly prevents less DNA damage and motility problems.

4.) Self-pleasure psychologically relaxes you which in turn affects your microbiome in a positive way. Your gut and your mind is linked. When you are stressed out this affects the performance of your gut and raises so many issues from being bloated to anxiety and depression. Maintaining a healthy gut should and is a priority.

5.) Regular masturbation leaves you feeling more positive about your body. Men and women who suffer from self-esteem issues, learn to love and make love to yourself.
A good masturbation session leads to a higher feeling of self-esteem and confidence. Knowing and familiarizing yourself with your body and how it ticks you know what you need to bring yourself to orgasm. You also strengthen your connection with your own body. Having this knowledge of your body will lead to a more satisfied relationship status too. Plus the relaxing effect after helps you think straight and make you a better decision maker.

We will continue to expand on this list to help you start on your journey to self-pleasure and care.
Do not be afraid of your own body. Take the time to explore it. Touch your bits and satisfy yourself and your curiosity.

Who could not need more pleasure in their lives?